This is my wife's latest book. it is a great read.
Are you one of those people who likes to set a ton of to do's, so you can feel like you are accomplishing something as you mark them off one by one?
Setting some to do's is a great way to keep you on schedule and help you plan out each day. They help you remember what you need to do and when. We use them constantly at work, as it helps keep us reminded of what we need to do on each file and then we have a page that lists all of them in one spot.
The problem I have run into in the past is setting too many to do's. If you set too many, you will not be able to get them all done when they are due. Just the simple act of setting them can eat up much of your time as well. Thing about it. If typing out the details of the to do take on average 2 minutes for each one and you do 30 per day, that is an hour right there just typing to do's.
Only a certain number of them should be set for each day. You should always set one for the things that can get you in biggest amount of trouble. At work, for me, that would be paying benefits when they are due on my lost time claims. At home it may be paying bills or tests that are due. After that, I recommend setting to do's that affect other people. At work that might be a meeting or group project due date, at home it might be a birthday party or some other social gathering.
There are also those to do's that should never be set in the first place, because all they do is create clutter in your life or amongst your more important to do's. An example at my job would be not setting to do's for medical reports that will automatically come in and get attached to my file anyway. At home, it might be bills you have on auto pay or grocery shopping, etc. You are going to do those things as they come up anyway, so why set a reminder.
Lastly, if you set a to do and find yourself continuously moving the date back, just delete the thing. If it can be pushed back week after week, you probably don't need it anyway. Only set to do's / reminders for the absolute most important things. If you don't, you will find your list cluttered and have a feeling of being overwhelmed. I suggest treating each day as though you only have half of that day to do what you need to do. It will help you focus on the more important things that you need to set reminders for.
Are you a list person? What do you use to keep track of your to do's? Do you ever find yourself having so many that you never get them all completed?
Many of us have had difficulties throughout our lives. Life does no discriminate. It will try to knock you out, if you let it. Some of our life difficulties are from bad choices and our own doing. Sometimes there are unforeseen circumstances that are completely out of our control. Death, long term illness, illness of a family member, loss of a job, divorce or break, etc. I am sure we could all compile a pretty long list if we had time.
The thing about life is it is okay to get knocked down, be upset, be sad, be angry but don't stay there. I know people who are still mad over a divorce, angry at their employer for the way they got treated or fired and even over a family member's illness or health condition. These people have been holding onto their anger for 10 years or longer. When that happens, you are not living. We all have the power to get back up and keep going. If you have gone through a divorce and it is final, get up and move on, It is over. If a family member is ill, get over the anger and sadness, because it does neither you or them any good. If you have been long term unemployed, you now have a second chance to rewrite your career path. Keep applying to jobs, learn something new, finish your education so you can apply to those jobs that require it.
My world changed 7 years ago when I became unemployed, later found out that my youngest son was no longer meeting milestones and had actually regressed. He was later diagnosed with autism. He did not start speaking until he was 4 1/2 years old. I was down. I had no luck finding a job and I watched as my son struggled on a daily basis. Fun? Definitely not. Am I a stronger and better person for going through all of that? Definitely yes. Even though I was mad at the world, including God, I never gave up. I kept applying to jobs and I finally found a part time job in my chose profession almost 4 years later. My son started making progress and finally started speaking during that time. Is he cured? Not even close, but we get through each and every day. I also did not mention that my daughter who was born with spina bifida started having issues and we had to make some very scary decisions on that front and we got answers to our oldest (my step son) who is also on the higher functioning end of the autism spectrum.
Out of all those difficulties, things turned out ok. I am now full time and still in my chosen profession. I got sick and tired of not being able to be considered for jobs due to not having my bachelor's degree, so I got back in school and am just 18 hours away from having that degree.
Now, I don't sweat the small stuff. I know that there will be daily battles with all the things we have going on and different personalities in our house, but we get through them, each and every day. Worrying, being made and losing faith, does absolutely nothing to help your situation. You must change your mindset and never give up. If you do that, good things will either start to happen and your circumstances will change for the better or you will gain the tools and wisdom that you need to deal with your situation.
Has anyone ever been in a rut that was difficult to get out of? What did you do and how did you change your mindset?
I have finally decided to take the plunge and get into podcasting. right now I am thinking about doing one podcast per week. I plan on making most of them about motivational and lifestyle change.
My shows will be based on my life experiences and what I have seen and felt. The goal is to help others who are or have been in similar situations. My daughter and I did a test podcast last night, as I just received my microphone and some other equipment. So stay tuned for our shows!
I will write about both professional and personal topics on my blog. I am also a Father to 3 special needs children, so you will probably see several posts about autism, spina bifida and other special needs issues.